Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Tuesday Tips #2

I got this one (forward) today and it reminded me that I hadn't posted in a week and that it's Tuesday and I could use it as a Tuesday Tips post. (See last post if you're confused.) I had the urge to post pictures of my kids and grandkids anyway, so this email fit perfectly, except for the riddle thing at the end that totally confused me so I'm leaving that off.

Well, I must say that I agreed with much that was said in this forwarded email, originating with Paul Harvey [this is questionable-could be someone else.] He talks about the fact that people can try so hard to make things better for their kids that it makes them worse. Then he talks about some hopes and desires he has for his grandchildren. I sure do have many of the same desires and hopes for mine. Here are some excerpts for you to ponder and hopefully take to heart.

I would love it if they never had to had a hard day in their life or that they would never need to shed a tear or that everyone would always love them and treat them like gold, but you know, what kind of person would that cause them to be? Above all else, I hope they'll know Jesus and have Him to help them through whatever life may bring. I love them so much and part of me wishes all their hurts could be taken away, but mostly I hope, as expressed here, that all of the hurts that are sure to come will be refinements:

Selena with her mommy

Shana with her Auntie Nee

Perhaps some day there will be more of you, but for now, this is for Lena and Shae-Shae:

I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.

And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.

It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep. [As both your mommy and Auntie Nee have the latter.]

I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in. [Well, I don't know about the back eye part, but maybe some bruised feelings.]

I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother/sister. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room,but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he's scared, I hope you let him.

On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom .

I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.

When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.

May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.

I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it.. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.

I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandma/Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.

May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.

I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.

These things I wish for you - tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.

Written with a pen. Sealed with a kiss. I'm here for you. And if I die before you do, I'll go to heaven and wait for you.

Just copying these here brought some tears. Perhaps the same will happen to you as you think about your children/grandchildren.


Penless Thoughts said...

What a wonderful, thought provoking post, Maxine. So very, very true. I'm sure your 2 precious ones will grow up to be wonderful, well adjusted adults.

Donna J. Shepherd said...

We would all do well to have done these things. I rememember well drawing a line down the middle of the bed I had to share with my little sister. lol! Thanks for sharing these tidbits of advice.

Lisa said...

I enjoyed your post.I hope my kids can learn from my mistakes. Your babies are precious!

Sara said...

This was such a sweet post!! And you're right...it is so easy to want the ones you love to never have any pain. But then they will never grow in character and strength. It's through trials and hardships that we grow more beautiful to the Lord.

Cathy said...

Love your pictures ~ Yes, these are things we do want for our children.

Susan Skitt said...

Oh God does some of his best teaching through the gift of adversity. It shows us our need for him, doesn't it. Thanks for this post and have a wonderful and blessed Christmas!

Beverly said...

I love this list. I'll print it out for my girls so that they can read it one day. It is comforting to me to know that although I'd love to protect my girls from hardships - that they are a necessary part of life.

Neesie said...

This was so sweet, and true!!!

~~Deby said...

oh Maxine this was so good....
it is about living a REAL life...
this is indeed a keeper.

Susan said...

Now, this was just incredible!!

God truly uses everything in our lives to shape us and make us into the image of HIM!

Thanks for passing this on.

Is that your daughter, she is so BEAUTIFUL!!!

Hope you are having a blessed day♥